Yesterday, we got to bed late. Boyo number 2 asked to play Hyrule Warriors with me shortly after breakfast. I said yes. He is a fanstastic partner to have in the game, especially if I need a secondary high rank character just to make it through the level. Long story short, life got in the way and there we were putting the game in almost at bedtime. Because a promise is a promise. We made it through four levels before I had to begrudgingly call time. I’ll gladly sacrifice a little sleep time to get the chance to play with my kids, and keep my word to them.
Here’s some cool artwork for Jet Set Radio from the Sega Dreamcast. I got to play Jet Set Radio Future on the Xbox. The game itself is a crazy wonderful mix of rollerblading platforming while tagging walls with graffiti (each character had their own unique style) set to the music of an underground radio station DJ. That music is still amazing. Some of the best ever in a video game. All that was wrapped up in this comic book style art. JSRF used cell shading in the game which for me was a first. It gave the comic book style an even more gritty/ethereal edge to it. If you ever get the chance, I would always recommend these games.
You’ve heard the voices that are getting ever louder in the mommy blogging community that technology is bad for your kids. I know. I’ve heard it, too. For me though it’s a little personal. Gaming and technology are a part of my identity. It’s been hard not to feel as though those comments are a direct attack on who I am and what I do. Which is why I’ve been a little quiet. You see, I’m not going to write AT you guys, admonishing you about technology or games or how it is or isn’t ruining your kids or how you’re depriving your kids of future work endeavors or learning experiences. I don’t want to write from a place of anger or defensiveness. So I won’t. If you guys see me go quiet it’s because there’s a storm in my head and I won’t share it until I see what is left after the storm passes. And then I will show you not what destruction the storm has brought, but how clean the air smells, how fresh the sky looks, the little drops of rain left on leaves. So yeah, here we are. The storm has passed. Let me share what I’ve learned.
Maybe we need to start again. Hi. I’m a gamer. And a mom. I care about my kids a lot. But you get that because you’re a mom, too. And we do worry about how to raise our kids because that is our job and our heart. You probably have a gaming system at home, or a tablet, or maybe you lend your kid your phone sometimes, or let them use the computer at the library. And maybe you find your kid plays games and you don’t really get the appeal, but whatever. You figure they’ll grow out of it like all kids grow out of playing with toys…. Wait! They might not “grow out” of their love of technology and gaming. It might become a career for them, or it might be one of their favorite hobbies as an adult. The percentage of people and adults who play video games has only grown over time. Denying that or degrading games and technology to childishness is the same as saying people should grow out of fantasy based books. C.S.Lewis himself said that as he grew older he realized that the desire to hide or push away “childish things” was the actual childishness and that as a fifty year old he had finally reached the point where he could read fairy tales openly. So let’s not delude ourselves into thinking that we can avoid all gaming, or perhaps let’s embrace what video games and technology have to offer us without guilt.
No one will deny that what a child needs most is interaction with their parents. But this mom doesn’t expect you to light yourself on fire to keep your kids warm. Mom’s, don’t do that! Don’t lose yourself while raising your kids. It’s not healthy for you..or for them. Maybe you need a shower desperately so you plunk the kid in front of the TV to let them watch a carefully vetted show that teaches them different music styles. Or maybe you give them a puzzle game to play in the car on that road trip to your parent’s house. And then maybe you kick the kids out of the house to go sword fight with sticks in the backyard. It’s all about balance. What I want, moms and dads, is to be able to help you with that balance.
Here’s where me being a gamer comes into play. I have loads of knowledge and history and experience with video games. I play new games all the time, I read about them, I watch the kids play, I play with the kids. I’m pretty discerning with what I let my kids play, how long, how often, what they play at their friend’s houses, what their friends play at mine. So I’m here to be what I’ve been for moms randomly in stores. I’m a guide. When you are in Target or GameStop and you’ve got that crazy mom who’s suddenly full of all kinds of words and enthusiasm about the game your wondering if you should get for your kid? That’s me. You are always going to know your own kids best, and make the best decisions for them, but I can give you information to help you make your decisions.
You can go ahead and keep reading the mommy blogs who tell you things like, “I’m so glad I had a childhood before technology took over.” I read them, too. After all, I am a mom and care about my kids development. Being a gamer, I know I will be exposing my kids to technology on a regular basis, which makes me even more concerned that I achieve the right tech/non-tech balance for my kids, and that I give them worthwhile games to play. My hope is that when you get to the point where you realize that you and your kids need a balance that includes technology in moderation, or when you are looking for a video game that will be just as beneficial for your child as a good book, you will come here. I can help you out. This mom plays video games. Watch how I play, how we play, and take from our experiences what you think would be a good fit for your family.
I’m a gamer and a mom, and I play video games with my kids. I’m teaching them how to balance their use of technology and gaming in their lives because I believe that technology is not going anywhere and I want them to know how to make it a tool before they’re out on their own.
The big guys are off camping this weekend so I got Knack for Little Guy and me to play. It actually has decent couch co-op. He’s playing the silver knack secondary character, by choice, and he can still fight and jump and do everything my character can do. Except he’s too good! I can’t even get a hit on the bad guys unless I pull out a special move, because he’s already gotten in there and beaten them all up! And then he turns around and gives me health because apparently I need it…. I’ve created a monster.
Papercrafting is a pretty amazing art. With some paper, glue, an exacto knife, a cutting mat, and a scoring tool, you can make things like this adorable Chibiterasu model from Okamiden created by DeviantArtist Lyrin-83.
Papercrafting can range from easy to difficult depending on the size of the model’s details. It definitely takes some patience and persistence to complete a model, though the end results are worth it. Chibiterasu here lands on the easier side of papercrafting.
If you need some basic papercrafting instructions, try this tutorial from PaperCraft Museum. Your biggest expenses are going to be the exacto knife and cutting mat (around $15 combined), but once you have the tools in place, you and/or your kids will be able to make as many projects as you can print.
Be sure to check out Lyrin-83’s DeviantArt page to see more of her awesome designs, and come back next week for another craft.
I was thumbing through Etsy to find cool video game related stuff (cross stitch patterns, art, swag) when I came across these Rupee Inspired Soaps from FizzyFairyApothecary. I said to the husband, “Oooo! Someone makes rupee soaps.” “Rupee Soaps?” I showed them to him and he goes, “Duh nuh nuh nuh naaaaaaah! Your face is clean.” I was straight up done.
A reminder to not make technology out to be the bad guy. As parents, we can guide our kids through social media and technology. We must give them the knowledge to make smart decisions, not withhold tech from them in an effort to stem the inevitable issues that come up with social media. I don’t let my kids have access to Facebook at their age, but I certainly tell them about how people abuse social media to hurt others and how it can be addicting. I will always arm my kids with knowledge, logic, and kindness. You’re raising good kids, people. Don’t neglect or shy away from this part of their education, too.